Roles in life

In Our household as in many gay and straight households the chores are divided by skill, desire and necessity. I hate nothing more than laundry. My husband is good with it so he does it in our house. I am a bit more on the like it really clean side so I do most of the household chores such as vacuuming, dusting and cleaning kitchen and bath. When I need help he helps. He makes the bed most mornings. I tend to cook more. I don't understand the defining of the role in any relationship. I can work on a car just as easy as he does and vice verse. I would never say one of us is "butcher" than the other. I find it hysterical that people need to compare to their situation to understand something. Why can't we just accept that everyone can just do what works for them and we don't have to identify things via gender?